During a channeling session I held, two participants asked Tohar about the difficulty of forming a new relationship. Their responses may help others, so I’m sharing them here (with the consent of those who asked, of course):
1. What is preventing me from finding a relationship as good as I would like it to be?
“We can suggest that you continue being more and more good to yourself – in your attitude toward yourself, in the words you say to yourself, and in your actions for yourself. Do better, be kinder to yourself.
“Notice what is present in your reality – whether people, places, or things – do they feel good to you? Are they good for you? If something is not good for you, consider whether it can be removed from your life, from your reality. If it’s something that can’t easily be changed, then maybe it’s worth considering what change might be possible or appropriate, whether in a relationship or in a particular place.
“Direct your attention inward so that you can be good to yourself and create more and more of a life that is good for you. As this movement strengthens, it will become easier for you to open up to a relationship that is beneficial for you. Because you will already be used to feeling good with yourself, it will be easier to embrace the possibility of being at ease in a relationship as well”.
2. In your opinion, what is preventing me from experiencing and creating a relationship that is beneficial and good for me, and how can I avoid losing hope or faith that this is something that can happen?
“We cannot offer you a way to avoid losing faith. The question is not how to prevent losing faith but rather what to do when faith is absent.
“When faith is absent, return to examine your relationship with desire. Often, a lack of faith stems from a belief that you don’t have the right to receive what you want. If you believe you lack the right, yet you try anyway, there is an expectation within you that it won’t happen, and then the absence of faith is the experience waiting just around the corner to manifest.
“If you delve into the depth of this lack of right, of ‘I have no right to what I want,’ and create healing there, not only can faith be strengthened, but a knowing may arise that goes beyond faith, which can be more stable”.
