We begin by asking: Are you willing to change, or are you hoping the world will change while you remain the same? Is there a readiness within you for self-transformation? This is the question.
Readiness does not need to come without fear – far from it. The fear of change has its place and should not be ignored or suppressed. However, it’s worthwhile to explore whether there is a willingness to change. Are you prepared, whether it’s to see reality or yourself differently, or to act differently within your reality? Are you ready?
For humans, change is not always easy. It’s not always simple to see everything in a new light. As you go through changes, you may experience a range of emotions, and the most prominent among them is shame. Shame can be a significant obstacle, especially if you avoid feeling it.
You might find yourself clinging to your current position, reality, or perspective because letting go could make you feel ashamed. Shame is a challenging emotion because when you feel it, you are furthest from love. Shame holds the least presence of love, which is why you might go to great lengths to avoid feeling it.
We suggest that in processes of change, shame may sometimes arise. When it does, it’s important to remember that shame does not tell the whole truth. Feeling shame does not necessarily mean there is something you should be ashamed of. And even if there is something to be ashamed of, it does not mean you are unworthy of love.
In other words, shame can be a step in the journey, not the end of the road. It is an important step in the process because, if you are unwilling to feel and heal your shame, you cannot reach the transformation you seek.
It’s worth examining whether you are avoiding acknowledging something or changing something out of shame – or more precisely, out of the desire not to feel shame. If this is the case, then this is the place to bring healing. This is the place to learn that shame is a step, not the conclusion, and it is a step worth taking.
