“Within the wholeness of who you are, your emotions play a significant role. Yet you are so entangled with them. This is okay, this is not okay, this is too much, this is too little, this takes over, this needs to be regulated, this minimized, this amplified, this is beautiful, this is ugly, this should be controlled, this should be released, and so on. So many opinions and actions you attempt to apply, so many views on which emotions you’re allowed to feel, how much to feel, when to feel, at what intensity, how to express, whether to express—and on and on.
There is an entire mechanism of control, restriction, and emotional suppression that exists within every human being, and this mechanism is part of the disconnection you have learned to live by. It’s not just desires, needs, and passions you’re disconnected from; you’re also disconnected from your emotions.
Some people are more emotional; others less so. Some find it easy to feel certain emotions but may struggle with others. But as a rule, we say that as human beings, emotions are one of the areas where you experience disconnection. The reason you are so confused and entangled with your emotions is that, when you feel, you can recognize what you need, want, and desire—because all these things are felt.
You feel desire; you feel longing; you feel need. Through your feelings, you can know your truth for that moment, for that time, for that stage of life. You’ve been taught that some emotions are good and others are not, that there are positive and negative emotions, as part of a mechanism of control meant to weaken you, to disconnect you from yourselves, to make you more easily manipulated.
The more you feel, the freer you become. The more you feel, the better you know what you want, need, and long for. You know this, and that knowledge cannot be taken from you.
When you know what you need, want, or desire, you cannot simply withdraw. You become committed to yourself, to fulfillment, to seeking a path to express and meet these needs.
In human development, in your culture, at a certain point a collective brainwashing around emotions began to take root, designed to disconnect people from themselves and maintain deep, broad mechanisms of control. These mechanisms are now dissolving in this era we share.
This time we are in, you and us, is an era where these mechanisms are unraveling, and people are reconnecting more and more to what they feel, and through that, to what they want, need, and long for. This is one of the hallmarks of this era, of the transition period humanity is experiencing.
To allow your development to continue, it is beneficial to recognize the importance, the legitimacy, even the sacredness, of your emotions. This recognition will require you to do something you may not want to do—it will require you to feel.
You are not great enthusiasts of feeling. This is because when you feel, you not only feel what you want, need, or long for; you also feel fear, anger, hatred, pain, sadness, rage, anxiety, and even depression. You feel emotions you would rather not feel.
Perhaps you’ve learned to feel, maybe you feel more than before, but you still do not enjoy feeling these emotions. There is no judgment in our words; these are indeed unpleasant emotions. But it’s important to understand that everything is interconnected. If you do all you can to avoid certain emotions, you begin to diminish your overall capacity to feel. Thus, the thinking part, what might be called the mind, grows stronger, while the feeling part diminishes.
As a result, you often don’t know what you want, need, or long for, and even if you begin to recognize it, you often start questioning whether it’s okay, whether it’s too much, whether you’re allowed, whether it’s forbidden, whether to express it, when and how, and so forth. The thinking part thinks too much, if we may put it that way, and this happens because you’re trying to figure out what’s right for you.
The search for ‘what’s right for me’ is one of the clearest signs of the disconnection you’re experiencing. The more disconnected people are from what they feel, the more they are occupied with trying to figure out what is right for them”.
